I Was In The Area So . . . . .19 December 2010
A couple of years ago, I was with a group of knitting friends in a cafe when one of them complained about a friend who would just drop by to her house unannounced. She thought that was dreadful and everyone else in the group agreed with her. Except for me.
Then this week, I read an article in one of the Sydney dailies which touched on this subject. The writer said it was now a complete “no no” in Australia (or at least in Sydney) to call on a friend without prior warning.
When I lived in London, friends would just drop in and I took it as an extreme compliment – they presumably felt they would get a warm welcome. And we’re talking about FRIENDS here, not passing acquaintances. Friends won’t be offended if I have to tell them that I can’t stop as I’m on my way out, or I only have half an hour free but it’s enough time to put the kettle on.
As well as being a compliment to my hospitality, it’s also easier! If I know you’re coming over, I’ll make some attempt at tidying up and cleaning, I’ll make sure I have some cake or biscuits on hand etc. If you just drop by, I may only be able to offer you a tea or coffee and have to clear the knitting from the sofa but presumably you’ll realise that.
I wondered why nobody here ever dropped in but presumed it was ME. I’ve often had friends over for meals and don’t seem to have trouble persuading people to come over (well David is a great cook). But nobody ever calls by on the off-chance that I’ll be at home. And nowadays of course they can phone from a mile or so away to check.
I also use to pop over to see friends in England but I was glad I hadn’t been doing that here when I heard the opinion of my knitting crowd.
So if you’re a friend of mine, and you find yourself in my area, drop in to say hello. If it should be grossly inconvenient (which would be rare), I’ll tell you. If not, you’re very welcome.